KEEPING IT IN "THE FAMILY": How Gender Norms Shape US Marriage Migration Politics

Foreign nationals who marry U.S. citizens have an expedited track to naturalization. U.S. immigration officials require that green card petitioning couples demonstrate that their relationships are valid and subsisting (i.e., for love) and not fraudulent (i.e., for immigration papers). These requirements are ostensibly gender and racially neutral, but migration itself is not; men and women petitioners seek partners in different regions and solicit advice from similar others about the potential obstacles to their petitions' success. Using an online ethnography and textual analysis of conversation threads on a large online immigration forum where U.S. petitioners exchange such information, I examine how gendered standards of legitimacy are applied to family and sexuality and used discursively among petitioners to achieve genuineness and define red flags indicating potential marriage fraud. I argue that forum members police immigration requests even before cases reach an immigration officer. Petitioners use the formal criteria of U.S. immigration in ways that reveal gender ideologies, expectations for conformity to a gendered hegemonic family ideal, and sexual double standards surrounding sexual agency, fertility, and desirability. These intersectional norms shape members' online discussions about the suitability of marriages and of the migration of noncitizen partners to the United States.