Luring the Elusive: Narratives about Sexual Desire for One's Partner by Women and Men in Heterosexual Romantic Relationships

In this qualitative study, we explored women's and men's experience of sexual desire for their romantic partner and its link to dyadic interactions. During interviews and focus group discussions, our participants described sexual desire as 'elusive', 'conditional', 'responsive' and 'malleable'. The subtheme 'elusive' refers to sexual desire having a will of its own, while the remaining three refer to prerequisites for, triggers of, and strategies for enhancing sexual desire respectively. These subthemes come together in the overarching narrative 'luring the elusive', which articulates one's responsibility to accommodate sexual desire for one's partner, but also the necessity to acknowledge its elusiveness.