What Just Happened?

The author discusses experiences in analysis during the formation of an object relationship, which can give rise to a phase of experiential wholeness when a particular piece of unconscious analytic work has been completed. The question of wholeness is also considered from an ontogenetic perspective. The difficulties in achieving a good object relationship are considered, including with those who have had little or no experience of a good internal object. Three stages in the formation of a good internal object relationship are proposed.